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4:23 PMAndrea ♥ TheTaintedButterfly.com
Serenity Now Part 2- Confessions of a Fed Up Step Mom
So, here’s the deal. Last week the kid’s Mom emailed us and
told us that she is taking my step son back to live with her. I won’t go into
the specific details, but let’s just say the situation was handled very poorly
on her part. She could have left it at “He’s decided he wanted to come back to
live with me.” We would have been satisfied with that. He’s old enough to make
that decision for himself, and we want him to be happy even if it's not with
us. I guess just letting us know she'd be taking him back wasn't enough for
her. She had to make sure she was rude, hurtful and unnecessary too. Not only
that, she manipulated him into believing that he would be better off there and then
told my husband that it was his fault the boy wants to leave. I don't think my son has a clue what his Mom actually said, at least I hope not. I couldn’t believe
she had the nerve to treat my husband like some kind of half assed parent when he’s
clearly gone above and beyond for his children. On the other hand, it was pretty
much par for the course. Before the kids came she was so appreciative of us taking
them while she was going through a hard time, but since the day she dropped
them off she’s acted like she was doing us a favor. I wanted to remind her that
she should feel blessed to have a man that will step up the way he has. We all
know how many men can’t be bothered to spend a day with their kids or a dime
from their pockets, let alone a year and a half with little to no child support
aside from the money she gives directly to the kids that gets blown on video
games and fast food. Don’t misunderstand me though. I’m not saying he deserves
a standing ovation. He was doing his job as a father, taking care of his kids
in whatever circumstances he’s given. I’m just saying she didn’t give him the
respect he deserved.
Aside from the fact that the way she went about letting us know was so upsetting, the wife in me was pissed off because she was raking him over the coals like she was still married to him. I don’t care how many kids you have with him, I’m not going be ok with you talking to my husband any kind of way. Talking crazy to him is my job! In a way I'm being funny when I say that, but I’ve found that one of the hardest parts of being a step mother is feeling like another woman has more of a say than you do about what goes on in your own home. I think most step parents would tell you that adjusting to the kids is the easy part. It’s the interaction with the grown folks involved that’s the real challenge. Our families have received many compliments on how well we all get along to create a positive and supportive environment for the kids. My husband and I have hosted several parties for the kids in which their mom’s whole family has attended and it was a great time for everyone. You want to know the truth though? The truth is that we’re faking it for the kids. There is so much I would love to say to this woman, but I was a kid with divorced parents who could hardly be in the same room together. I want a better environment than that for my kids, and any time my husband tries to push back when she attempts to manipulate the situation the first thing she does is try to involve them in the drama. Believe me, I’d love to get my ratchet out of my toolbox and go to work on her, but the kid’s happiness means more to me than my desire to put her in her place.
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